In these moments, I wanted to address his thoughts and self-perceptions to assess irrational and destructive beliefs about him in order to possibly help him see himself differently. In these moments, I used encouragement to encourage him to continue talking and normalized his avoidance (minute 20:45) as a means of protection. As she talked about making stupid choices, I heard myself say “okay” several times. I should have used different encouragement here, because in some places where I said "okay" it could be perceived that I agree with his comments and that was not my intention at the moment. I notice that I often say “okay” when someone finishes speaking before I formulate my response. At these times, I began to look for an opportunity to begin to normalize the fact that as a teenager, although I did not condone her drunken and drugged actions and that they were indeed bad choices , what she was doing wasn't out of the ordinary, and it definitely didn't mean anyone had the right to take advantage of her. Then, around 26:19, I asked if it was other people who had told her that she had made stupid choices, with the intention of addressing some of the damaging reactions the victim is often exposed to following a abuse, and which she generally ends up internalizing. and believe these messages. At minute 27:28, I should have stuck with what she said about it being easier for others to focus on what she "did wrong" and explained that what she needed in those moments was quite the opposite, for people to know. his side, and give him a