Attachment as described by John Bowlby is the "emotional" bond that develops between an infant and the primary caregiver (usually) the mother (Daniel 2005) . This attachment suggests a certain evolutionary survival function and to fully understand attachment theory, one must know that the quality of attachment can be loosely classified into secure attachment and insecure attachment. The quality of the infant's attachment to the caregiver is partly due to the “synchrony” between the two and partly to the caregiver's state of mind (Daniel 2005; pangnam 2014). Attachment relationships between infants and caregivers begin at birth and develop over time and the basic need to eat lays the foundation for secure attachment, as the infant feels a sense of security and warmth when feeds (usually from the mother). “The infant will develop an attachment too, regardless of who feeds him” (McLeod 2009). The caregiver also develops an emotional bond with the infant as they respond sensitively to their needs (pangnam 2014). Studies by John Bowlby on child development and “temperament” suggest that a secure attachment to the caregiver provides a necessary sense of security and safety. security (McLeod 2009). The child exhibits certain behaviors such as anxiety toward strangers, separation anxiety, and social referencing due to attachment (pangnam 2014). Such behaviors suggest the need for secure attachment. Attachment research has shown that secure attachment to a caregiver protects infants from social and emotional “maladjustment.” Insecure children with maladaptive coping are more vulnerable to stress, problems controlling negative emotions, and demonstrate hostility, aggression, and poor social skills (Benoit 2004). ...... middle of paper ...... detachments are greatly affected, so the child is vulnerable to developmental problems and physical problems. “If an attachment has not developed by the time the child is 5 years of age or younger, the child will suffer irreversible developmental consequences, such as reduced intelligence and increased aggression” (McLeod 2009). Adults need to be educated about the consequences of not setting aside time for self-care and how it affects children. Parents who have taken care of themselves after divorce are better able to improve the quality of parent-child relationships, as this is an important factor that determines the long-term effects of divorce on children. children (Clark 2013; Sandler 2012). Research has proven that high parenting quality (combination of warmth and discipline) and active participation in the child's life improve adjustment to divorce (Sandler).