Is there anything wrong with being selfish? Most people would answer yes to this question. However, what if your selfishness only serves to enable you to benefit others? For the most part, we are raised not to be selfish and to share with our friends and family members. Most parents have made great sacrifices to raise their children, which usually last for more than 18 years. It's not selfish. And it's not selfish to be grandparents either. But there comes a time when you have to think outside the box. Look to the future when questions arise. The what if scenario. More and more you wonder if this or that was happening. This comes out of nowhere. Something compels you to think about the older generation and the younger ones. Normally, something dramatic happens to trigger this process, such as the death of a parent. But it can be as innocent as a fall or a simple illness of a parent. My parents always said they weren't going to be here forever. In my mind, it was. So I pretty much ignored Mom's request that I better learn how to make cookies from scratch. Now I wish I had. My grandmother always said that there comes a time when the parent becomes the child and the child becomes the parent. This is so true in the later years of life. Parental submission for the child to take care of the parent poses major problems. Normally this becomes a battle. Parents do not want to lose their decision-making capacity and independence. After telling the child what to do for over sixty or seventy years, the role reversal is painful for both parties involved. Definitely enough to keep you up at night. Every day seems like the day before. The battle continues over parent functionality,...... middle of paper...... over. Then again, you are selfish for the sake of others. If there is property involved, it is a good idea to relinquish it to whoever it is left to and simply continue paying taxes on that property. This will prevent the state from taking it for your maintenance or inheritance taxes must be paid by the heir. It's also a good idea to have a trusted family member on whatever type of account you have. Having a joint account will prevent funds from being tied up in probate court after you are gone. Share the wealth, you won't need it. The last thing on your selfish list should probably be asking your loved ones to celebrate your life. Don’t just mourn their loss, but celebrate your new beginning. Let the beer flow, turn up the volume to the golden classics and dance, dance, dance. I'll be there to watch over the fun, because you see, I'm selfish.