Sexual excess is an antithetical idea, which denotes both a liberated pleasure and a contemptible transgression. It is therefore also an idea which is based on the hypothesis of limits and an insatiable desire, which must exceed normative parameters to achieve pleasure. Whether it is uncontrollable physical sensations, the decision to avoid "talking" with children, or even the inability to translate emotions into words, the notion of excess arises from the inevitable interconnection between morality and modern sexuality. Such interconnectedness emotionally allows for boundary-pushing while granting shame the capacity to maintain normative boundaries. Therefore, whether it is Sigmund Freud's idea that excess is excessive stimulation or Leo Bersani's assertion that excess is a structure-breaking experience, both rely on the otherness of sexuality. The analysis of their respective works clearly shows that the concept of excess has the capacity to overcome shame through the otherness of sexuality. It is particularly interesting to examine sexuality in relation to modern everyday life. What may seem abnormal, even abject, in daily life is constitutive of human sexuality. This goes beyond normal functioning, rationality and determination, making sexuality inherently excessive. The gap between sexual life and everyday life connotes the otherness of sexuality. Freud mentions this in Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality in his assertion that perversion should be used as a term of reproach: "no healthy person, it seems, can fail to contribute something which could be described as a pervert with a normal sexual purpose. » Although he may have focused on the abnormal peculiarities of normal sexual life, this idea exposes... middle of paper... a scintillating power and renders the naked body obscene and the sexual act sordid and dirty. For shame to recede, it needs a desiring and resonant other, who validates sexual excitement and transgresses this same shame. Generally, excess refers to superfluous and degraded material, disposable waste. However, through its richness, the term excess is well associated with the sexual experience, because it reflects the subjectivity of sexuality as an overflow, a growing inability to contain desire, as well as a search for experiences that arouse , even overwhelming. Excess is always antithetical and therefore accurately reflects the double nervousness of sexual experiences. Whether it is Freud's excess as a turn-on or Bersani's excess as a means of breaking down and enabling the evolution of structures, the empowerment of sexual excess in its inherent sexual otherness deactivates shame through the power of desire..