My mother was born on April 11, 1970, the last of ten children; her mother was in and out of her life throughout her adolescence, as she struggled with drug addiction and prostitution. My mother lost both parents at fifteen and had me at sixteen. She got married at sixteen since my father was much older than her, it was necessary; he would have gone to prison. The relationship I want to talk about in this essay is my mothers and mine. My mother had a hard time raising me, we grew up together, since she was only a child herself when she had me, and certainly had no representation of what a child should be. parent. We have had many ups and downs throughout my life, but I would say overall things are going well now. I learned from her and I'm happy that things are going much better. My mother's teenage years were problematic, to say the least. She grew up as the baby of ten and didn't have much. At the age of five, she was removed from her family for neglect and placed in foster care. Her father was then able to pick her up and some, but not all, of her other siblings. The emotional hell that his life was would have given anyone a reason to be a horrible person. My mother always fought to do the right thing. She decided early in life that making the right choices always paid off. My mother always told me to learn from the mistakes of others and especially my own, so as not to waste time in life suffering needlessly. I would say my mother is a pragmatic person, which was difficult at times because instead of having a lot of emotion like most other mothers of girls I knew, she was more detached from emotion than most. She never gave Lee... middle of paper ...... contact her so that I didn't have to spend my whole life without my mother. I agreed with him and contacted him and called her. My mother apologized for pushing me away and finally admitted that David wasn't as bad as she had initially thought. We all went to dinner and things have been completely different since. My mother and I are now so different from before. I think we both realize that despite what each of us believes is right to do in our lives, we respect each other's wishes and beliefs. She and I will never be the same since that day I was gone but I believe we are in a much better place. Now that I'm definitely an adult, I see the reasons for the choices she made for me growing up. I learned that running your life through fear can cause radically life-changing events, but if you can own up to your bad actions, you can have a happy life..