The number one reason seems to be buried in the fact that men and women are told from a young age that it is not the job or responsibility of the father to be the primary caregiver of their children. children, even if they are more suited to this position than the mother. Stay-at-home fathers are seen as “less competent, less affectionate toward children, and less involved in meeting children’s physical needs” (Fischer and Anderson, 2012 p. 17). This leads to the belief that stay-at-home fathers are not fit to be the primary caregivers of their children. The stigma that men may not be good at taking on this position is also visible in reports that fathers receive negative responses if they challenge this gender role. According to Rochlen, Mckelley, and Whittaker's 2010 study of stay-at-home dads, most of them come from stay-at-home moms. Our society also has unrealistic expectations of these men. Most of the time they are considered more feminine and therefore can be considered less masculine. This leads to the belief that they no longer participate in or even enjoy activities considered masculine. Although these men are seen as less masculine, they are also seen as incapable of providing the emotional support and care that their children might need. According to Fischer and Anderson (2012), “men who are stay-at-home fathers have similar levels of masculinity and femininity ».