In life, many of us experience being hurt by those we care about. As a young girl, I witnessed that usually the people we are closest to end up being the ones who hurt us the most. You expect more from them and their actions affect you on a deeper level, the people you hold to different standards than your loved ones. My grandmother taught me, through the trials she experienced, what it means to be a truly selfless person. My grandmother showed me that the best way to live is to ensure the happiness of your loved ones even when they have wronged you. My great-grandmother, Mom, took care of all of her children, including her grandchildren, her nieces and nephews, and her great-grandchildren. She allowed anyone to stay in her home in times of need and lent money even when she could not afford to support herself. Even when I was a young child, my great-great-grandmother was older but she played a big role in my upbringing. I never received any form of structured learning like daycare or preschool because I loved being in her company and didn't want to separate from her. Eventually it became necessary to go to school and it was a difficult transition to be away from her for much longer periods of time than I was used to. She then begins to feel the effects of old age. Her family, whom she cared for so deeply, took advantage of her poor health and state of mind to the point of completely destroying her body. Even in those circumstances, she always said, “I love all my babies.” Those who truly cared about her well-being thought it would be best for her to move up north with my grandmother. The seasons started to change and I started to feel the distance between me and mom, which was the name everyone called her because she felt that we... .... middle of paper.. ....I saw that bad experiences in life should not make you a cold person and allow your heart to protect itself. Today I take this lesson and do my best to apply it in my life. . I recently broke up with my girlfriend and she hurt me deeply. My love for her is stronger than I have ever felt for anyone. Even though my heart hurts and my chest feels like it's going to collapse, I know I can't be mad at her. People's feelings change and I can't let this situation make me a person with a negative outlook on love and life. I will do exactly what Mom taught me to love and show kindness to my ex-girlfriend, Kirtrina, no matter how much she hurt me. Mom demonstrated that ensuring the happiness of those we love even when they are wronged is the best way to live and that is how I want to be remembered. Not having negative thoughts related to my name after I leave.