Lily, one of the main characters in the novel, was born into a lower-class farming family, who left her and her sisters only the right to marry a man from the same social group. Status. However, to Lily's advantage, she has extremely small feet with high arches, which gave her the opportunity to marry a man of a higher class and raise her family's social status. She achieves perfect feet through the excruciating process of food bonding, which allows her to be matched with a high-class family, where she continues to follow the expected culture and tradition she is accustomed to by abstaining from food for some holidays, by making gifts. gift to her new family and dress in appropriate clothing for her wedding ceremony. Not much time passes when a laotong relationship is established by choice for the purpose of emotional companionship and undying loyalty” (See 43). Laotong is a relationship that bonds two girls together for the rest of their lives as extremely similar and close sisters. This special bond between Snow Flower and Lily allows them to feel what the other feels, share stories, confide in each other, and gives them both the opportunity to gather and share knowledge that the other does not. maybe not. expressed his anger at her by beating her, and kept this a secret from Lily, who later witnessed this while spending several months in mountain villages while a rebellion was occurring. As was their custom, Snow Flower knew she had to respect and care for her husband, even if he didn't do the same for her in return. She bit her tongue when she had to talk about him, only saying kind words and never talking about the difficult times he had put her through. Snow Flower proves this by explaining to Lily, “No, look, you think my husband has evil in his heart, but he's not a bad man” (See 209). Snow Flower knows that she should not accept this harsh treatment from her spouse, but yet makes the ultimate decision to accept it now that she has regained her high social status. She turns out to be a respectable woman, as a 19th century Chinese woman should be. With age, she becomes wise, becomes gentler and truly understands the difficult life she lives, even if it is not under her control. With a man who beats her and an unpleasant stepmother, Snow Flower is really suffering both physically and emotionally, but she knows where to express her feelings, in "nu shu". See explains: “They used nu shu to write letters, stories and poems. It was “hidden” in embroidery, weaving and fan paintings. The women wrote