Being assertiveAssertiveness is an ability to act in a positive, sincere, respectful and confident manner. It is also an ability to communicate directly using relevant language, taking initiative, focusing on solutions, addressing problems, taking ownership of problems and putting an end to problems. Assertiveness can also mean being firm, patient, persistent, pushing someone to act, encouraging them and not compromising on the solution to the problem. Self-affirmation requires flexibility adapted to the individual and the situation in which they find themselves. People generally face three obstacles that prevent them from asserting themselves. These are: poor communication skills, low self-esteem and fear of conflict. An assertive response would be: “I have some concerns about the success of the idea. My concerns include… Please help me clear up my misunderstandings. They are very clear about what they want to achieve. Communication should be planned so as to sell the idea and not make it seem like the assertive person is nagging or dictating. Assertive speaking is an important method of communication that is usually associated with active listening. When someone speaks confidently, they express themselves confidently and directly, both verbally and nonverbally. They speak out to make a point, but also allow others' ideas to be shared. Being assertive does not necessarily mean being aggressive. These two behaviors are quite different in their ways. An assertive person allows the problem to be discussed, while an aggressive person usually engages in a one-sided conversation and does little listening to the other party. An aggressive person “shoots first” before tackling the problem. An assertive person looks at a problem with solutions in mind. An aggressive person is direct and believes that their solution is the only one. An assertive person takes charge but invites other ideas for solutions. An example of an aggressive response might be: “There’s no way this will work. I don't like this idea and I don't know what you were thinking when you thought about it. » Aggression is normally associated with anger. Anger is a natural emotion ... middle of paper ......correctly interpret a situation. If this happens, it's important to be willing to admit you're wrong. Also, don't stop being assertive in the future with this person. Finally, assertiveness should not be used for purposes of intimidation or manipulation. This means standing up for your beliefs, expressing your anger tactfully and eloquently, reaching out to others, building your self-esteem, and learning to be more direct. It is a method to achieve your goals, feel good about yourself and show respect to others. Most importantly, don't try to be something out of the ordinary and always consider the needs and respect of others. References Alberti, Ph.D, R. and Emmons, Ph.D, M. (1986). Your perfect right. 5th ed. San Luis Obispo, CA: Impact Publishers. Axelrod, A. (2000). Elizabeth I CEO. Paramus, NJ: Prentice Hall Press. Bower, S. (1991). Assert yourself. Ed. updated. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Publishing Company. Brounstein, M. (2000). Coaching and mentoring for dummies. Foster City, CA: IDG Books Worldwide. Fensterheim, Ph.D, H. and Baer, ​​​​J. (1975). Don't say yes when you mean no. New York: Dell Publishing. Smith, Ph.D, M. (1975). When I say no, I feel guilty. New York: Call the press.